It’s more difficult than ever to be truly self-confident. We live in a world that is almost run by our social media accounts and we are plagued by others opinions of us.
In the past year I cannot begin to explain how much I have transformed. I have learnt more in the space of the past year than I ever have.
Here are my top tips for becoming more confident:
Put yourself out of your comfort-zone
I remember how much I used to hate hearing this piece of advice. It’s all well & good telling people to put themselves out of their comfort zone, but when you are on the receiving end of this advice, it’s not what you want to hear. Why? Because putting yourself out of your comfort zone is scary. The racing heart, sweaty palms, feel like you’re gonna’ faint or throw-up kind of scary. Believe me, I know. But at the end of it all, once you’ve well & truly left your comfort zone, you will feel 100x better for it. You will realise that you can thrive outside of it & you will stop pigeon holing yourself and your abilities.
Fight the inner voice
I remember sitting in meetings when I had an opinion but I just couldn’t say it out loud. It’s like when I went to open my mouth no words would come out. I think it’s the fear of looking stupid of feeling ridiculed. But look at it this way, who looks more favourable – the one who sits there without voice or opinion or the one who is strong enough to share their thoughts and opinions (whether or not you agree with them.) Your thoughts and your opinions are valid. Do not let that voice in your head tell you otherwise!
This is a practice that I’ve heard people swear by for years & to be honest, I thought it was a load of nonsense. But I will put my hands up & say, it works! There are days when I wake up feeling confident & like I can accomplish anything that day but there are also days when I feel self-conscious – unfortunately how we wake up can be out of our control. However, what you do with your mindset that day is up to you. It’s possible to change how you feel, you don’t have to accept it. On days when I feel rubbish on my own skin or if I have a big meeting coming up & I’m feeling nervous, I say the same affirmation out loud:
‘I am a confident, independent woman & no-one will mess with me.’
This may be my affirmation of choice but you can word it differently if you like. The trick is to say it to yourself in front of the mirror, while you’re diriving in the car, wherever but say it loud, say it proud & say it confidently. Repeat it over & over again until you believe it with all of your being & you will be surprised how your mindset changes. It may sound like a load of rubbish, but I ask you to try it & see what happens.
Wear what makes you feel good
This sounds conceited but it’s true & I think a lot of people out there would agree with me. When you’re happy with how you look on the outside, you feel better on the inside. When I love my outfit or I love how my makeup looks, I feel so much more confident in myself. So put on that lipstick shade that you want to, no matter how bold it may be. Put on that outfit that you just bought. Do whatever it takes to feel happy in your skin.
You know those times when you think ‘why did I say that? I’m so stupid!’ when we get nervous? We doubt ourselves. We criticise everything we do & we pull ourselves apart. Stop it. Stop over analysing yourself & dragging yourself down mentally. In order to become more self-confident it’s important to think positively as much as you can. Praise yourself for your achievements no matter how small. Always be positive about yourself & your self-confidence will slowly blossom!
If you have any tips to share with fellow readers of Beauty & The Blouse, please feel free to share them in the comments!